📖 Meaning
When excessive favor or kindness is bestowed, it paradoxically breeds resentment rather than gratitude. The idiom reflects the Daoist principle that extremes revert to their opposites, warning that over-generosity can create dependency, entitlement, or grievance.
📜 Origin Story
The phrase originates from the text Kengsangzi: On Using the Dao (《亢仓子·用道》), a Daoist work traditionally attributed to Kengsangzi, a figure associated with Laozi's lineage, though scholars consider the extant text a later composition. The original passage reads, 'When grace becomes excessive, resentment is born; when love becomes excessive, hatred arrives.' It articulates the Daoist doctrine of reversal at the extreme (物极必反), echoing the Daodejing's teaching that pushing anything to its limit causes it to turn into its opposite.
💡 Example Usage
父母不悟恩甚怨生之理，溺爱过度反养出忤逆之子。
Parents who fail to grasp the principle that excessive grace breeds resentment spoil their children excessively, only to raise rebellious offspring.
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🔤 Quick Facts
- Chinese: 恩甚怨生
- Pinyin: ēn shèn yuàn shēng
- Literal Translation: grace, excessive, resentment, born
- Category: Philosophy
- Characters: 4